Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Emotional roller coaster

So today started out good, I had doctor appointments and Belle was behaving while I did that and ran some errands. I was feeling so at ease and at peace with life then I have one thing happen and it throws me off. She was really good up until we were at my second appointment (the cardiologist) and she began hitting me and pinched me. Needless to say she got time out twice, but unfortunately it doesn't seem to phase her any. Then she was lifting my skirt and tugging at it while I was talking to the girls at the front desk about my follow up appointments and copies of records for my primary so he can make sure the adoption paperwork is accurate. Then she fell asleep in the car and we went to the library. She liked that and was okay there, though she did run away from me a couple times. We went to the Amish farmer's market and  got a bunch of produce and some eggs for about $20! I thought it was a good deal! Then since my mom and sister were close by we all met at my house and had lunch. We haven't spontaneously done anything like that in about 2 years since dad died. Mom can do that now because she is off for the summer and will be working part time from now on. She will be watching Belle starting in July too. It is a much better arrangement for all of us and we are all have more peace about it.

So after they left while she was napping, I checked e-mail and stuff and our home study orientation is scheduled for July 7th! I was really excited and nervous to be moving that quick. Then I got a phone call from the fire marshal to schedule our home assessment. He said that since we are doing an adoption we get put to the top of the list, so they don't hold us up! We just mailed the papers yesterday! I was shocked to hear back that quick! I was so shocked I got a little worked up about things. But after talking to Paul I calmed down. I am so excited and obviously this is God's plan! So I was feeling better at this point, and relaxed. By the time I started making dinner and such and Belle's movie was over, I wasn't as relaxed anymore again. She puts me over the edge when she directly disobeys what I tell her and deliberately runs away. It makes me so angry! And she is not only doing that but she is hitting, hitting people and animals. I try to punish her and need to work more on the love and logic part of discipline but it is hard! I think though she also just likes to get a rise out of me. She is one stubborn child, but so sweet and caring when she wants to be. She is a good girl, she is just misbehaving. Any advice on how to handle some of these issues would be appreciated!

So that has been my day and I will be working on more adoption stuff tomorrow on top of cleaning my house, playing with Belle, and trying to rest. We will see how it goes! That's my life!

Tuesday, June 12, 2012

Adoption and house

So wow! I haven't written in a long while! To sum things up life has been busy and crazy! Also I have off and on been emotional, sensitive, and extremely tired. Work has been busy and keeping me on my toes.

So as for work, like I said it's been busy. I have had a lot of nice deliveries and such and been on mother baby pretty equally to my labor time. I don't mind it too much even though I call myself a labor nurse.And as tired as I have been and not feeling like working, I do like my job.

So as for the adoption, we went to send our first payment and paperwork and we didn't have enough postage! Paul and I are bad about not checking the mail too, so it sat there for a week! I was so upset, but I put another stamp on it and mailed it again, only to have it returned yet again for not enough postage!! I was upset but Paul mailed it and paid the rest in person. The got the stuff last week and in the mean time, I started our flower bulb sale to raise money too. I have gotten some orders, however, I am not sure we will meet the goal I'd like but that is okay. So this week and last weekend we having been filling out the paperwork that is simple and needs to be returned now. Next on my list will be making copies of things we need and getting stuff notarized. There is a lot to be notarized! But if I keep at it and tell Paul what he needs to do it will get done. And we have our yard sale scheduled for June 23rd and I am hoping to get a big return on that to cover the rest of our home study fees. We are also going to work on filling out papers for the grant we will apply for. So a lot of stuff going on, but all good.

Now for the "attack" from Satan using our house. Paul has been concerned about the house and wanted to get it checked out because the floor slopes to the middle and we have a door that won't close and ceiling "pops" all over. So yesterday we finally had a contractor come out to see if we need to get our house lifted. He looked in the crawl space and nothing seemed too bad, but he asked if there were other things that we questioned related to the sloping. So I took him around the house a bit showed him the door that doesn't close and the cracks in the walls. When he looked at the ceiling that is in our bathroom and the shower stall he asked how long it had been like that (the ceiling is separated from the  drywall), I told him since we bought the place. He got worried then, he said that should never happen. To top it off we have had water in the crawl space which we knew about and have a sump pump for, but he also said that around the pilings the dirt goes toward them, and that is not good. So he will be coming back soon with his crew to assess everything and use lasers and stuff to see if its minor or not. I am praying for minor and not really needing to do much about it right now, because if it is major it could be upwards of $20,000!!! (Gulp, oh wait....vomit!) So Paul and I could be looking at taking out a personal loan or credit card to do this if it needs it, then we may also need to do that for the adoption if we don't raise all the money we need.

Also in the last few weeks, we had sermons on money i.e. tithing, saving, and living. So Paul and I are tithing from our gross income now, which is significantly more, but we are trusting God to take care of us. My grandpa had his 80th birthday and surprise party. Paul replaced the carpet with the laminate wood flooring we bought 2 years ago and we switched Belle's room to the big room that she will share with her sister. And we mostly put together our office craft room. So a lot is going on, and mostly good. Like I said I am just praying that God will come through and take care of us and give us the funds, strength, and help we need.

So please pray for us as we continue on our adoption journey with financing and our home that the problem is really minor or that insurance will cover the cost or part of it.